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The value of an empathic workplace

Caring about your employees’ feelings and personal lives is no longer a skill that managers can afford to ignore.

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“You know, you don’t need to bring your personal life into work.”

A manager once said that Angela Nino, after that same manager noticed something was going on with Nino and asked her to tell him about it. “I was like, ‘You just asked me the what the problem was, and I told you, and then you told me you didn’t want to hear it,’” says Nino now. “Like, pick one.”

Separating our work from our personal lives is an old refrain, one that’s quickly becoming obsolete as these facets of our lives become increasingly intertwined. Creating an empathic business culture takes effort, but it’s worth the work, says Nino, and for more than just how it affects employee recruitment and retention.

Angela Nino

Nino, a trained forensic interviewer, Chicago-based improv comedian, and founder and CEO of Empathic Workplace and the Improv Therapy Group, explains that not recognizing employees’ personal feelings no longer works.

“If you get in a fight with your significant other right before you leave for work or if you’re taking care of a dying parent, it’s really hard to turn all of that off and leave it at home,” Nino notes. “I find that when I have something going on outside of work that’s impacting work, people know anyway. Now that I’m running something of my own, I’ve found that people’s loyalty to empathic workplaces is so high because when they say they’re sick, I believe that they’re sick. If they’re lying, whatever.

“They’re lying for a reason, and if I give people the space to heal or give people the space to take care of a parent or take someone to a doctor or take their wife to the airport to go visit their kid, that’s the kind of stuff that when people do have time they will show up, be loyal, and get their job done.”

Nino says that beyond recruitment and retention, managers who have empathy for their employees build loyalty and trust. After all, she explains, the way we treat our employees is the way they treat our customers.

“If my boss was just a jerk to me and made it very clear that he or she doesn’t care about me, why would I pick up the phone and care about their customer? It’s not my customer — it’s my boss’ customer, it’s the company’s customer. From the top down, the way that we treat people trickles down to every aspect of the business.”

Nino recalls an incident when she received an angry email from a boss about how she’d “completely ruined” her expense report. “By ‘completely ruined,’ he meant that I’d put lunch in the column where dinner was supposed to be,” says Nino. She was teaching a class at the time and that email impacted her mood and the way that she spoke and came across to the group — her clients.

If any of this sounds like over-sensitivity on the part of employees, you’re half right. It’s sensitivity — to the fact that many managers haven’t created empathic work environments, despite what they think.

According to a recent State of the Workplace Empathy study by Businessolver, there’s a wide gap between workers’ impressions of their chief executive (CEO) in terms of empathy and how CEOs think of their own organization: 92 percent of CEOs reported their organization is empathetic but only 50 percent of employees say their CEO is empathetic.

It gets worse: 96 percent of employees believe it’s important for their employers to demonstrate empathy, but 92 percent think empathy remains undervalued.

There’s a clear disconnect between what business leaders believe and what’s really happening.

“We can’t just put a sign up on the wall that says ‘Everyone here matters’ when that’s not how it actually goes,” states Nino. “We have to demonstrate it in our actions, and that’s why I stress during workplace investigations that it’s a time when our culture is tested. Does this person really matter? Do we have empathy for everyone? What about the person who’s eating other people’s lunches out of the refrigerator? What about the person who’s having sex with their subordinate? What about that guy who sends all those creepy emails? Do we have empathy for them?

“You don’t have to agree with what someone is doing, but every human being out there for the most part is just trying to connect,” continues Nino. “We may not agree with the way they’re doing it but having empathy during those behavior-corrective conversations makes it a lot easier for people to buy into that correction.”

Empathic improvisation

In her work as a forensic interviewer, Nino found that true empathy takes a lot of authenticity and rapport building.

“A lot of times when I had these conversations with people, it was too late to have the empathy,” Nino notes. “The damage was already done. Most of the people who I talked to told me that they were mad at their boss or mad at the company. Happy employees don’t try to sabotage the place that they work.”

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May 21, 2019 10:19 am
 Posted by  Anonymous

Angela is a consummate professional. She is a respected source in this area of specialization. This one sentence resonated with me --- she said, "the way that we treat people trickles down to every aspect of the business” -- this is so true. I really feel that the Empathic Workplace is doing some very timely and cutting edge work. Every company should embrace what Angela is sharing. She is 100% on target. I only wish I could have attended the Disrupt Madison Event -- I'm certain a great deal of helpful and insightful information was shared there.

I salute their efforts. Angela really is on to something great with this!

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