Taking the leap: Overcoming fears vital to business success
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From the pages of In Business magazine.
On May 9, I did probably the scariest thing I have ever done. I got married. To anyone who knows me, this sounds especially crazy because Matt and I have been happily together for more than six years and have lived together for three. We were already practically married, and in recent months I was less than discreet about the fact that I wanted to get engaged.
Finally, the day came that I had been anxiously waiting for. He planned a thoughtful and romantic proposal and even had a surprise party waiting at my friend’s house after I said “YES!” I was thrilled. Without getting too gushy, Matt is the perfect man for me — caring, hardworking, thoughtful, and much more. I had no doubts he was “the one.”
But a few weeks after the excitement had settled, something strange started to happen. I started getting really scared. I started questioning things that I already knew the answer to, or that had never even crossed my mind. Can I really be with one guy for my whole life? What if in 10 years I get bored? What if in 20 years we have an argument so bad I can’t even look at him anymore?
What if, what if, what if.
My mind spun around these questions all day and night, and it was affecting me negatively both personally and professionally. During one of the happiest times in my life, why was I having such anxiety about something I had known for years I wanted to do? After weeks of thinking, reading, journaling, and talking with family and friends, I realized the reasons why. The first was that I was making a big commitment that
I took very seriously. The second was that I was not in complete control of the outcome. And finally, I knew that things were changing.
What does all of this have to do with business? Just like marrying your true love, there are a lot of things in your professional life that you feel to your core are the right things to do, but for some reason fear is holding you back. Those voices of doubt from the back of your mind start sounding louder. Can I really start my own business? Do I really have enough expertise to make this business decision? What if I fail?