Dec 17, 201210:47 AMFinancial Perspectives
with Michael Dubis, CFP
No perspectives, just a father’s reaction to tragedy and healing
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I was trying to meet my monthly commitment to IBMadison.com, but what I was writing was just so relatively unimportant right now that I couldn’t focus on it.
This national tragedy in Connecticut is shocking and awful. This is one of the worst things I’ve witnessed or could ever imagine. So I write to hopefully share in the healing with you. This is admittedly pretty raw, but I believe it’s healthy to just react as normal people would rather than let the media and politicians contrive emotions for us. Please feel free to share as well.
I’m reeling. As a father, I can’t help but feel sad, nauseated, angry, and devastated. I can’t look at my kids, think about this tragedy, and not cry. So I don’t. I save those tears for the children and parents in Connecticut. I look at my kids and am even more grateful for their health and life. I’m also grateful for my life and my wife’s life – that we can be here to be with our children, to raise them and to love them. I’m going to try to use this pain in a way to make things better for my family and community. It will take time, but I hope it starts here.
I’m also very angry, not just at the situation, but at God. “God Is.” That Truth is at the center of my life and is what has Saved me. Without it, I would be nothing but ashes and dust. But today, I can’t find reason in my mind why God would allow this to happen. God is way beyond my understanding, and so is this tragedy. Christmas will renew my Spirit; it must, but for now, I’m Spiritually depleted.
How will these families recover? Will they? I’m praying for those families every day with the greatest sincerity of heart. I’m praying for ALL families who have lost a child or loved one, including those that do not make the headlines. This tragedy is horrific, but experiencing the loss of a child at any time or any age under any circumstance is equally visceral and tragic.
I’m praying for wisdom as we as a nation of real people reflect on this. We have unity around this, which is rare today. We now need honest leaders to heal with us, not the insulting rhetoric or the current politicizing of this event by the few in the government who have already started to do this – who are quickly dividing us once again. It’s so disgusting that I’ve turned the TV off. There will be a time for politics and there will be time to address the big issues, but it’s not now – at least not for me. Let’s instead lead by our own example rather than letting the TV speak for us before we’re ready to speak.